When you are out and about you can either be the audience or the actors!
As an observer you have no say and can only participate when asked to.
In life,if you take the lead you will decide who to talk to , when to move on and what aspects to focus on for your fulfillment!
There is NO other way to grow a strong network of people and have a say on your own future and those who will be involved in it and what shape it will take!